The heated conversations with my friend always gives me evil laughs, trust me in most of them whether I’m wrong or right it always ends up being one of those things where I need to take a trophy home, yay on some who’s the champ vibes, trust me it’s not what you think, it’s a really healthy one’s, nothing hectic, well that reminds me, we actually just had one recently, so she said “Dude I went to watch Fast and Furious 8, amazing!! you need to go watch it, its thee best”, when someone make movie recommendations because they enjoyed it, the expectation is that you will be asking about highlights, the most awesome parts , what they loved the most and all, well I came out as a disappointment, my response was rather cold with zero interest, “Nope there’s no way I’m going to watch that, that’s not my cup of tea”, even though this conversation was on a phone call, my imaginary eyes revealed the shock in her face that was followed by an automatic response “No way bra, everyone loves Fast and Furious, everyone is watching, in fact people were anticipating for the day of the release the moment they knew the production had began working on it(Ok maybe this is a bit exaggerated )”
Sadly my friend didn’t win this one, I was not ready to jump in and attend the party, whether I love or hate Fast and Furious, thats a topic for another day, lets talk about it over a glass of wine haha, but on the real though, this got me thinking about different scenarios we find ourselves melded in. Most of you by now know that I’m a very huge fan of anything that addresses purpose, I believe your purpose makes you unique, somehow the conversation about Fast and Furious reminded of how we for the longest time have been expected to follow a certain pattern, it’s always about the sound way of doing things, how it always worked for us, how it’s very foreign to do somethings only because it’s not been done before. One that get’s stuck with me the most is when people impose their experiences and conclude them to be reality, do not get me wrong, I do believe in drawing inspirations from others, but be careful not to have that as a blocker hindering you from soaring,
It is very much of an honest mistake to follow a pattern that has been created on your behalf because the truth about patterns is that they are structured to never bend, if you happen to bend them you will be considered a rebel who chooses not to listen to those who are wise. Can I just validate that just because it works for someone else it doesn’t mean it will work for me, and again, because it didn’t workout for someone else doesn’t mean I will follow suite, I’m reminded of a saying “Different strokes for different folks”, I cannot stress it enough that we need to be in a position where we stretch our capacity beyond what is known to be doable, doable definition shouldn’t be drawn from who has opened that door before, rather it should be, I am gonna standup and do it because I believe in my capacity, I know in my different attempt I might not get it right but the truth is I will and I can, of course I can always be in a position of seeking help but I am ready to do it my way with the help of God.
So it’s late at night and I’m sitting down thinking of how a pencil has been designed, and part of me cannot help but think of all ideas that people or society has concluded to be everyone ‘s reality as a writing of a pencil, see the truth with this writing is it has been designed with the capability to can be erased any day for as long someone else or the actual writer feels they have something better to put in, and this got me thinking to myself, “Instead of following their writing, I’d really like to help them edit what they have written, simply because I’d love to explore the doors they never dared to open”.
I have lived to realize that following a certain pattern is generational more than anything, more like, “Our father’s did things this way and it always worked for them”, or “We have succeeded doing things like this and we do not see the need to change”, Or “Ow by the way, someone else already tried opening that door, it just never works”. well truth is all this is true, no doubt about that but another part of the truth is, this is not a limit or a barrier for those who are brave to actually question how visible the pencil might be. Do not limit yourself hunny.
OK FORGET THE RULES, DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE AND FORGET BEING APOLOGETIC ABOUT IT