I Kissed “Complain” Goodbye


While letting go seems to be the hardest, I found me on the crossroad,  we had part ways with my “dear” Complain. That tough moment when you realize that so much is being taken from you, when you realize you are being used, you are giving without receiving, sorry I’m very much old school, I believe love should be a two way street, but no, it was never like that with complain. I realized overtime that I seem to be the one who does a lot of praising, praising my dear Complain. So I finally grew a tough skin and decided to have that deep last conversation  with ex-partner “Complain”, which went like this,

“Dear Complain, I wish I have known you for who you are from the beginning, you have been nothing but a total waste of my precious time, even through a lot of positives in my life you seem to have always been synced with the negatives and you sadly pulled me down to your level. You helped withhold happiness from me because every time when I noticed an opportunity to celebrate the small and huge victories, you always reminded me of every reason why I needed to pause with the celebration. It pains me to think that you never reminded me that after a pause I still needed to resume and celebrate, I only realize now that you did this because of your selfishness, How did I not see that it’s always has been about you the whole time? Well anyway it does matters no more because I’m leaving you, I’m finally happy to realize that I always had strength from within and now of all times, I have decided to use my strength, this is my goodbye to you. Sadly I won’t say it was nice being around you, because honestly, my time with you was a total waste of my precious time. Well on the brighter side I must really emphasize I’m never going to miss you. by the way, it was really easy getting your replacement, I must mention to you I’m dating Contentment and we are so freaken happy together. You have  blocked my moving forward so bad and I really wonder why I got really stuck with you even after realizing you were crossing me with a whole lot of other people out there(Cheater), have a nice life, I’m afraid I can’t be part of it”.

OK, just to share my a bit of how my union was with Complain, so he made me believe that I should always remember him every time I had something I have always wanted going on, complain would advice me to ignore it all because my “Mr” is so selfish…what is sad is that as you read this, something from within is validating that you have been in the same affair like mine, well it’s never too late to say goodbye I must say.

For a change, would you please forget about the things that are not going right in your life? Would you please look around,Do you see how far you’ve come from where you were yesterday? Remember those days when you thought if you had what you now thankfully have, you’d be the happiest person alive?

I look at everyday and realize that everyone has that one thing that they ought to be thankful for, but in opposite, it looks very easy to complain about what we don’t have and overlooking what we have, meanwhile there’s a land. It’s about time we turned the table that every time complain looked like a closer escape we ignore and chose the next exit. Appreciating what you have opens a room for even more. after all, I’m still waiting for that one person who will come a show me the results that came out after complaining….


“If your mind is in it, you can achieve it” Hlulani




3 thoughts on “I Kissed “Complain” Goodbye

  1. I relate the most because for me this has always been a reality that I faced early on in life but that’s the least of the more difficult aspect of this complainant relationship ,the real uphill battle is revealing the same to someone who you see is plagued with this attitude of consistent and persistent complaining, That’s why for me I grew an attitude of not taking offence to a lot of things that could spring up complaining but being reactive in the nature of assessment i.e. “If I start complaining about this issue I’m facing or I corner myself into complaining because I didn’t do beyond the result will that complaining change the result” , “Is there something I can do within the scope of my ability to change the outcome, if yes then why haven’t I done it”, “If the situation is beyond my reach then is there someone whom I can relay my objectives to who can change it” , Nonetheless the critical problem I’ve come to see about complaining is that iron ignores the facts and blames ,just altogether blames , doesn’t matter who or what it just blames. It undermines our achievements and leaves us drained, I left a complaining a long time ago not because there weren’t or aren’t things in my life that are worth a complaint but because 3 hours later of complaints and you will realise just how you could’ve better used those 3 hours.

    1. Wooooooooow I’m lost for words…I feel like giving you the piece to continue where I left of 🙂

  2. An old Indian proverb once said “I once complained that I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet.”,It’s easy to find a reason to complain when you don’t appreciate what you have and what you have accomplished,Often times people are robbed of their joy as a result of this ad it is not that surprising,I think far too often due to a lot of the cruelty,failures and negativity of just simply living in a world like ours some people have come to find an outlet for their pain and suffering,after all quitting isn’t a choice,you don’t have to invest any effort in giving up,but celebrating every win big or small and accepting the limits of what we can do as people,as human beings might be a good start,”I’m only human” isn’t an excuse to slack off it’s a reality that helps you know that “It’s alright,You’re not perfect,And that’s okay,It means you can still grow,It means you can still do better,So stop complaining,Do something about it”

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